Are you wondering if a man is in love with you? Are you trying to interpret his lines and behavior when he interacts with you, but still doubt his feelings?
The body language, facial expressions, and verbal language a man uses can tell a lot about how he really feels about you. However, you need to be able to correctly interpret them, because our personal desires and dreams can prevent us from understanding whether a man is really in love or his feelings are just a figment of our fantasies. That is, we can overestimate or underestimate someone's true interest in us, based on our own needs.
The good news is that instead of acting like a detective, trying to tie together disparate signals, you can use these proven signs to help clarify whether a man likes you or not.
The expression on his face
If you want to know if he is really in love, then pay close attention to the expression on his face during your communication. In particular, dilated pupils can be an indicator of interest and arousal. This is confirmed by the results of numerous studies - when the centers responsible for receiving pleasure are activated in our brain, dopamine is released into the bloodstream, causing the pupils to dilate. This is how our body reacts to emotional arousal - for example when we look at something that attracts us. However, similar signs are observed in a number of other cases: for example, if you are in a dark room, then the pupils increase in size so that more rays fall on the retina; or if the person is in severe physical pain or is under the influence of drugs.
By the way, if you find a man so attractive that your own pupils increase in size - do not hesitate, he will appreciate it (only subconsciously). In the second half of the 20th-century experiment was carried out, during which two photographs of the same woman were shown to different men. On one of them, her pupils were of ordinary size, on the other, they were enlarged. As a result, the subjects liked the second photo much more. They described the woman with dilated pupils as "softer", "more feminine" and "attractive", while the actual photograph received less flattering comments ("cold", "selfish"). Interestingly, all the men later admitted that they did not notice the difference in pupil size. Nevertheless, the results of the experiment undoubtedly delighted all women in love.
If, when communicating with you, a man raises his eyebrows, licks his lips, or smiles so that his front teeth are visible, then this also indicates his interest in you.
Another study found that men who talk to a woman they find attractive may have increased salivation (as testosterone levels in saliva increase dramatically). Therefore, if you feel that the man next to you is swallowing more than usual or his salivation increases, this may be one of the clear signs that he is not indifferent to you.
His body language
When taking a closer look at non-verbal cues, it's important to understand what your man's body language is talking about. The position where a man sits with his legs apart can be annoying on public transport, but when he does this while communicating with you, then this is already a good sign. This non-verbal cue indicates his interest in you - that is, he is open to you.
Active body language also suggests that it is important for a man to impress you. If the movements of his hands seem somewhat exaggerated, then he obviously subconsciously wants to attract your attention, demonstrating his relaxedness and strength. The freer his posture (that is, the more space he takes in space), the more obvious his desire to show his importance and win your favor.
How important communication with you is for a man will tell the position of his feet. If, when you talk to him, his feet are directed towards you, then he is carried away by the conversation and your person. If one or both feet are facing in the other direction, then he tends to leave or is not too interested in the conversation.
His gaze and the distance between you
Another unmistakable indicator of his interest is that he seeks to close the distance between you. For example, if someone else joins your conversation with him, he will instinctively come closer to you. His desire to maintain eye contact with you is also a reliable signal. And it's not just that - if a couple of people look into each other's eyes, it has a striking effect on their perception of each other.
Joan Kellerman, a psychologist at the University of Massachusetts, conducted an experiment in which strangers looked at each other for two minutes. The results of the study showed that two people who maintain continuous eye contact have an increase in heart rate and attraction to each other ( see also: "11 strange reasons why a man falls in love with a woman" ).
If a man does not miss the opportunity to put his hand on your shoulder or lightly touch your hand with his palm, this is a clear sign of his interest. Tactile communication is very important for a man in love.
He really listens to you
When a person is very interested in you, he listens to you without being distracted by extraneous factors. This behavior is both a way in which he wants to win you over and an opportunity for him to show that you are of great importance to him. If he remembers all the topics you talked about and reminds you of the smallest details of your answers, then he is definitely in love with you.
He compliments you
It would seem obvious. Research from the University of Kansas confirms that a man always finds a way to compliment the woman he likes. This is a kind of way to confess your love and admiration without uttering the frank phrase "I love you."
Pay attention to what kind of compliments the man gives - are they related to your physical characteristics or inner qualities? Of course, both of them speak of his attraction to you, but if in his praises he focuses only on external data, then his interest in you is most likely limited to them. Compliments to your kindness, sincerity, and dedication indicate that he truly values and cares about you.
He asks you personal questions
A man in love wants to know more about the woman he has sympathy for. It's great if he asks you a lot of questions, but the context is as important as the number. For example, a man interested in you will want to know your opinion on any issues, your interests, and aspirations. Questions about when a famous artist's exhibition opens or where the nearest toilet is located are just information he needs, not specific to you.
By asking you personal questions, he not only hopes to get to know you better but also seeks a deeper inner connection between you.
He includes you in his plans
Another clear indicator of his interest in you is that he seeks to fit you into his plans. He does not try to look hard to reach, does not play "cat and mouse", does not force you to constantly take the initiative into your own hands, and he does everything in order to spend time with you. He quickly responds to your messages, answers call (only if he is not out of reach or takes part in important negotiations). In a word, he does not disappear, requiring decisive action from you, but initiates further communication at any convenient opportunity.
However, everything is not so simple here. Pay attention to what kind of plans he offers you, and at what point? If his interest in you has an exclusively sexual connotation, then he may invite you out on a date just a couple of hours before it starts. This type of behavior even has its own name - "call of the flesh" (from English - "boot call"). These dates, which are called at the last moment, are notable for their ill-conceitedness. Even if you like spontaneity - think about whether the purpose of these meetings is only to satisfy his needs. If he makes joint plans ahead of time, then you can be sure that he is trying to please you and think about a quality pastime for both of you.
The time he sends you messages also matters. If your communication is just gaining momentum, then a good sign of his interest is the time of messages sent to you between 12.00 and 17.00. This means that he waited a while after the start of the day so as not to distract you from your work, but he did not write too late - before you had time to feel insignificant and undervalued.
He introduces you to his friends and family
Meeting the important people in his life is another sign that he is in love with you and has serious intentions. An invitation to meet friends and family not only allows him to show you a different side of himself but also helps him to introduce you to his future - among those who are dear to him, in a familiar environment. The man wants to see how you will interact with his loved ones in order to understand for himself whether you have the potential for life together.
In addition, by introducing you to his friends and family, he also hopes to know their impressions of you. If their opinion is meaningful to him, then further invitations to family events and meetings with his friends, undoubtedly, indicate that he is very serious.
He fulfills your little requests and comes to the rescue in a difficult situation.
If a man is trying his best to do something good for you, he definitely cares about you. Be it a morning coffee, bought especially for you, or setting up a new program on a laptop at your request - with such small actions he expresses his affection for you. And he does them not because he owes you, but out of his own free will.
His words convey his attitude towards you.
Sometimes the best way to understand how a man treats you is to pay attention to what he says to you. Even if he does not utter the cherished words "I love you", they may be implied in something else. The phrase "I miss you", said by the man, confirms the fact that you are an important person in his life, with whom he would not want to part.
In addition, a man in love usually worries about your well-being and expresses his concern. For example, he will remind you to put on a raincoat before going out because it is cold outside, or he will ask you to tell me when you get home to make sure you are safe. The simplest requests and phrases that we rarely attach importance to are actually very important for understanding the essence of the relationship.